How do I get a top boyfriend who respects bottoms’ human worth and dignity? Do they exist

I must be a fake bottom then because it'd melt my heart if he said he loved me

I was lured in by a bottom into softening up and treating him like an equal and he got disgusted and left me and talked about me as a pussy to all our former mutual friends. if i remained a cocky asshole jock like the start he'd just get turned on and not betray me. never again. they are basically women, they hate being loved and love being treated like shit.

moids are so retarded they think their only choices are doormat simp or monstrous abuser
you know you can be confident and dominant while also being loving right?

this is internally contradictory cope. just admit you like abusers lol

Peak dunning kruger lmao

This is what I mean by moids being retarded. No anon, not everything is some strict dichotomy where you have to be one extreme or the other, you can take the lead in a relationship while also being romantic, it really isn't a hard concept to understand.

so how come bottoms always go for criminal chads and thugs? they also like getting bullied

You're taking another man in your butt, which is meant for shitting, because you want to get fucked and feel like girl because you're weak. You don't see anything wrong with this?

Sounds gay dude

have you seen the porn bottoms look at, it has literal horses and dogs

Aha! It's a known fact that true bottoms in fact do not look at pornography at all.

fax

dom in the sheets

simp in the streets

This is pretty much me with my bottom bf and he appears to fall deeper and deeper in love with me all the time

It's really not that complicated, people want good sex and people also want good love and if you can do both you're gonna make your partner very happy

what do you mean by simp though?

I'm half joking, I'm not a doormat and he doesn't take advantage of me. I just mean I really like him and I'm blatantly shameless about it

based, giwtwm...

find a boy who appreciates your autistic energy. my bf respects my dignity AND my infodumps. he will only ravage and destroy me if I ask first

that's how it works if you are bad at sex. if you know what you are doing, you make these agreements well in advance, and probably use a safe word.

bottoms read smut

I've never even had to use a safeword with my bottom, I sorta just do stuff and it's very easy to tell if he likes it or not. The difference between "flustered but into it" and "legitimately uncomfortable" is pretty clear. And yes we also talk in advance about stuff we wanna try and he'll tell me about the stuff he really liked that he wants me to do again, and conversely, the silence speaks volumes if I tried something that didn't land as well, lol

well, the point of a safe word is usually if you wanna do cnc where you tell him to stop but are not serious about it

if you aren't doing that specifically then yeah you can usually just go off vibes

Fair enough

I just mean I really like him and I'm blatantly shameless about it

story please please

No. Bottoming is manly, not girly

The horny part of my brain has become pretty much devoted to cooking up schemes and surprises that are gonna turn him into a speechless, red-faced, incoherently horny little mess. I'm fairly obsessed with his body, and I like gassing up his self-confidence to cook up his own little schemes to turn me on, too, because I fucking love it when he shows off for me or tries on an outfit or tries his little moves on me, lol

A large chunk of the non-horny part of my brain has also become devoted to cooking up fun stuff to do with him and stuff that will make him smile

I think a big thing, too, is that I've come to really trust his perspectives on stuff, and his perspectives on me. Even if we weren't into each other like that, I think I'd still really want him as a close friend. He's become the first person I come to when I'm looking for input on a situation or decision in my life.

Dunno if I'll be able to articulate this properly, but I feel like he has an "image" of me that's not ridiculously idealized, but like he already sees me as if I were the person I really want to be. And I don't want to blow that image, so I'm a lot better at taking action on the things I feel like I should be doing, and not being lazy or passive where I might've been in the past. Like, the things that would let him down are the same things where I'd be letting myself down, and I'm less willing to do that when he's in the picture. So even indirectly, I feel like his presence in my life is making my life a lot better, and making me feel a lot better about myself.

Like when other anons say bottoms want them to be an asshole, I don't feel that way with him at all. Don't get me wrong, I don't think he'd want me to be a total goody two-shoes, he likes it when I'm "bad" in a fun way in terms of sex or sense of humor or whatever. But if I was actually cruel or rude to somebody who didn't deserve it, for example, I think he'd be even more upset with me than the person I actually hurt

thank you for sharing anon, its really neat getting that look into the dynamic and what you do for eachother and how you bring eachother up, I love reading stuff like this about how couples work together, thank you!

I hate bipedos retards so much, why do y'all always have to bring your hetero shit to our places

You're welcome anon, I like talking about him lol

fuck...

Sort of.
Desireable bottoms are queens. They learn AFaB-adjacent thinking, like, "wow, I can pull in whatever I want and am afraid of losing that freedom to 'romance' and 'commitment'. I could always do better!"

Meanwhile, rather unremarkable bottoms, like an incredible amount of transgirls and other homos, are still AMaB enough to suffer the yearning for love. Because they bond to people and hope to not lose them.

and?

w-wow
How long have you been together?

there are both afabs and amabs who think in both ways. this is the stupidest thing I read today.

It's a personality thing. I've seen very ugly bottoms who act like that, and absurdly cute bottoms who are very loving and lovable

Almost 3 years

while you're telling stories, can you go over in detail who confessed to who

how do I find a top who treats me as a dignified human or a useless fucktoy depending on my mood

The actual story isn't as romantic as you might be hoping, lol, we sorta just slid into it slowly and there was a lot of practical consideration involved. Knew each other since high school, but we go to different colleges with a fair bit of distance in-between. We started hooking up a lot over breaks when we were both home, then we were really really looking forward to breaks so we could hook up more, then the "hookups" were getting more and more loving and intimate and involved more and more hanging out and spending time together non-sexually too, and we were talking and texting a lot more in between breaks, and then we started doing visits during the school year too.

I told him I loved him first but it was already pretty obviously mutual. I was still resistant to making it "official" for a little while b/c of the distance, I had the idea in my head that long-distance relationships were a bad idea. But even then, we were making plans to move in together and make it official after we both graduate (half a year to go!) so at a certain point it was like fuck it, we're already boyfriends, let's just call it what it is, lol. So we're official, and I'm going to absolutely fuck his brains out when we're home for thanksgiving

hey I love hearing about the progression, thank you so much really. as a forever alone hearing these things and stories warms my heart and fuels me

then the "hookups" were getting more and more loving and intimate and involved more and more hanging out and spending time together

it sounds like you just want to date another bottom

pornpoisoned mentality

Well here's hoping you get yours, too

not happening but thank you I know my limits

How do i get bottom who dont gaslight me and care about other things then my dick

it sounds like you just want to date another top

oh it's you, based i'm glad it's still working out :)

top bfs aren't real.