Straight trans is actually super weird right?
I was straight at a man (even though I never got laid) and now I'm straight as a woman (trans).
It's not gay. It's almost as if the sexuality switch is set to heterosexual, and the gender switch is set to trans, so no matter what gender I am I want the opposite.
Anyone else get this?
FTM input appreciated.
you were always gay and still are
You were always Jewish and still are.
I kinda relate to this but as someone that's really bi and flipped from dating mostly girls as a man to dating mostly men as a girl. I like the straight dynamic lol
Do you get what I mean tho? It's not attracted to men or women, it's straight sex, gay sex, and lesbian sex.
Or am I just drunk and hormonal?
i told people i was straight but it's not like i ever successfully dated a girl so i'm not sure it counts
Your sexuality is heteronormativity
this. op is literally npchood: the sexuality
Same.
But I def wasn't gay. And I'm still not gay. So that means I was always straight and still am right?
OMG pooners, you're sad, I geddit, it's not my fault tho. I literally couldn't please you if I had you.
i don't consider myself as ever having been gay but i'm not sure i really consider myself as having really been a man either. every time i got near a girl i just wanted to be her friend. in retrospect though some of them definitely wanted to date me...
everything is so much easier now that i'm a straight woman
Yeah that. That's me.
But does that mean we were always into guys and repping that too? Or was it just the gender thing we were repping, and straight means attracted to the opposite of whatever you are, and we just couldn't do relationships because of the dysphoria?
Because it feels like the second thing to me, but I can't tell if that's cope.
idk I knew from a young age (even if it took until my 20s to actually do anything) and basically the whole time I figured I'd be straight as a woman so...
since I knew I couldn't talk to anyone about this (when I tried as a child I was shut down hard by my parents) I just told people I was a straight man but like is it repping or closeted or what idk...
I am a straight man who never really could perform as one so far and I am worried this is me, too.
My negro, sexual dysfunction is a symptom of gender dysphoria. If you think you might be trans you probably are.
Deal with your shit, you will feel better.
I knew. I just didn't know what I knew.
But I never felt attracted to men until I admitted I was trans. I can't do "bro-sex" or whatever. I don't like gay porn.
sexual dysfunction is a symptom of gender dysphoria
That's what I am worried about, yes. It gets worse and weirder because as a man, I never have any desire to be gay, never had a crush on man, never watched gay porn either. But I can't deny that I can imagine being with a man as a woman and it's even more exciting than being with woman as a man.
now that i'm post op i actually kind of like gay porn because it's a way to see two penises instead of just one
you clearly wish you were two spirit
I read that before and there is some chance I might belong into Group 3 described there. But it's not so straightforward. I don't hate being a man, I don't mind my male body and I would lie if I said there is zero desire into being with women as a man, I even wish I could fix it. It all makes me extremely confused.
the straight trans woman watches straight porn and thinks "I must be straight, I find this arousing" but struggles to perform in bed with women, ironically making them a better lay
the transbian watches lesbian porn and thinks "I must be straight, I only find girls attractive" and resents constantly being called a faggot for acting like a girl
It doesn't happen instantly like in the movies. It's not a lightbulb moment. It took me about a month to go from "couldn't be" to "oh shit, yeah."
In fact I didn't really know for sure until my boobs started growing and I felt the most profound sense of relief.
I don't want to push you any more than I have, I think you just need time to think about it.
Well, I am interested in experiences of others or I wouldn't be here. What made you finally decide this is the right path to take?
I actually can't point to a moment. Try as a might i can't recall googling doctors who provide gender affirmining care, or building up the confidence to make that first appointment, or even the phonecall in which I made it.
I just remember the feeling of moving in the right direction for the first time in my life. It's like falling down a waterslide.
same 100% same. i did decide i was bisexual a year or two before trooning out, and i might still be slightly bisexual, but definitely lean heavily towards men now. and yeah exactly the same im attracted to heteronormativity and the straight dynamic
desu i'm not sure though, like the feeling was kind of different before. it's hard to remember. but i feel like i was borderline asexual. definitely pretty much no libido. i did get attracted to people sometimes, or at least i thought i did, but i don't think i cared that much (except one time when i did really care a lot so idk), and i found the way other people thought about sex and romance really weird. now my desire for romance and sex is so much more intense, and matches up much more closely with the way other people talk about it
And I assume you're happier with how things are now?
OMG SO MUCH HAPPIER
It's night and day.
ftm here, i always preferred girls but didnt feel like i liked them the way lesbians or bi women do. after transitioning it became so much more clear why. so i guess i went from gay to straight
What changes contributed most to that?
The stress of having to pretend to be a man was SO MUCH more burdensome that I realized.
It's like I was running at full revs just to stay in place, but then when I accepted who I really was I got it all back and I could sit at idle or use it all.
I am happy for you. I don't think personally I am pretending, I am just being bad at it.
Wait.
What for?
Still don't get it, lol.
I relate. I have a few theories to what it might be.
meta attraction
asexual, as in not feeling attraction to people and they are, but still are aroused by the idea/act of sex as an isolated case
bisexuality with a straight fetish
either hetero or homosexual, with a straight fetish - only aroused at seeing your point of attraction engaging in its "natural" role (could also be meta attraction)
as in not feeling attraction to people and they are
*to people AS they are
I always thought of bisexuality as equal attraction to both genders. Whatever I have: - isn't equal attraction for sure.
I was attracted to women before I transitioned and I'm still just attracted to women 5 years on testosterone. Still khhv though.
i want gay2gay. from gay guy to gay woman
You were gay dude faking being straight guy before.
Now you're gay dude faking being straight woman.