Boymoder romance

So I've been on hrt for about a year now and boymode, but I'm being aggressively hit on by a girl in my uni class and normally I just turn them down due to self hate but we really get on well and she's reaaaally hot

So boymoders of the board, how do you inform a straight girl that you both have boobs and are potentially infertile? Is this doomed for failure?

I've got too used to dating chasers and am panicking about what would happen when she'd find out

Also feel free to share your own stories

I've got too used to dating chasers and am panicking about what would happen when she'd find out

Ok but like, cisF chasers exist, she might know

I'm aware, I've dated them. But I'm getting overwhelming straight vibes from her

she knows

I look androgynous with a masc leaning so I doubt that

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do you look manly? (as in face, body, hair, etc)

pic is me. Not sure I look manly but not feminine either, I think I have that cringe 'soft boy' look in all honesty

if i was a cis girl (i sort of am) and a boymoder wanted to date me i think i would get aroused

that's cool but I have the opposite issue where a girl is hitting on me who doesn't know I'm a boymoder, I feel like I'll disappoint

how would you disappoint? you are literally the best type of person

I have that cringe 'soft boy'

yeah you do, now it makes sense. She probably thinks you are one and will get creeped out when she finds out about the hrt and stuff since MTFs aren't attractive to cis women

disagree on the latter but ignoring that no one likes being misled

exactly, I'm hot to women because I'm a cute guy, not because I'm an ugly mtf

it's not like you are good at hiding
you are obviously girls dressing as boys...the small boobs..the soft skin...the bulge

hoodies to the rescue

wrong i can still tell..the skin...your long hair..your butt

reminding you that this is what I look like lol:

yes i am attracted to you...i wish you were in my bed

flattered

Why do you type like this

Women who go for twinks or clearly effeminate men confuses me since one of the things everyone always mentions is women all want a man they can rely on for protection. Why would they want the exact kind of guy who not only can’t protect them but is ok being as such

because women also want someone who is safe and who's safer than the charming twink

I hate how the concept of Transmaxxing exist
I hate this world

Women get off on the idea that they COULD boss a guy around (even if most twinks could still beat their asses if need be). It gets boring being with manly men. Letting loose with girly men is different & exciting, same reason women like midgets, they finally have actual physical power over a male

As an outsider to the board looking in, I'm just going to ask - is this a problem, really? If you like her and she likes you, go for it. If you're still pursuing a change of identity in private, go for that too. There's no need to drag everyone you know into everything you're doing or want for yourself, sometimes its best to compartmentalize until and unless people ask.

I never thought of it like this. Is this why some guys like muscle girls? The idea a woman COULD kick your ass?

Issue is I'm actively on hrt so I'd need to tell her at some point before we inevitably sleep together and she notices aspects of my body, that's the issue I'm grappling with

I mean, it should be clear from the state of the board that there are some men out there that are just more comfortable taking a more feminine role, at the very least. Sometimes people want to be wanted, to feel safe and protected, to be the 'desired', softer, role. For others its probably that its something exotic and rare, and our society does value scarcity. Or it could just be another one of those random fetishes that people can't explain, like Peanut Butter and Elbow porn.

I get that, but you are twisting yourself in a lot of circles to no good end, as well. I mean, lets say that you do that. You pursue a relationship for a time, get through a few dates, and then you have to reveal this information about yourself. Worst case scenario you end up back where you started, best case scenario you get what you wanted. If you don't bother at all, then its certain you remain where you start.

Ultimately we can't really dictate what other people do or think or say. Every time you engage another person in conversation, friendship or more you open yourself up to that person potentially not liking things about you. Still, loneliness is not all its cracked up to be, so its probably for the best to take a shot now and then and just see what happens.

It’s absolutely the exotic concept. When you have a society raised on the idea of traditional gender roles (to a degree). Inevitably when people can do whatever they want, they’ll seek out those who don’t align with the normal gender stereotypes. Girly twink man & shredded muscle girl are rooted in the same attraction

You're probably right. Though, from the outside looking in, I do think people here ascribe too much to the strange idea of Disney Love. They don't want chasers, even though those people are attracted to them, they don't want the wrong letter, or the right letter with the wrong idea, or people with no letter at all but the wrong gender. Its a strange thing, to see people rightfully argue that everyone should have a right to basic decency and happiness, and then turn around and act in such an ugly, exclusionary manner to people who are just trying to hook up, as people always have.

I guess this is all just a long-winded way of saying, again, 'does it matter, really?' If they're attracted, and you're attracted, go enjoy yourselves as two adults living in one of the most egalitarian and open times in all of history. The 'why' of it seems somehow less important really, and I think in a strange way people twist themselves in such a knot over why someone is attracted that they ignore the fact that attraction is a good enough basis for something more, with some conversation and negotiation.