Are nice bpds real?
Are nice bpds real?
yes. me!
Are you a whore?
absolutely...
i'm loyal when in a relationship though, I just need too much sex to feel something.
Yeah Im pretty nice I guess..
Sex is scary I can't please a nympho
Then find another bpd girlfriend! I'm leaving!
bitch.
nobody wants 2 date a whore u're just for fun
t. chaser
i try really really hard to make sure my bpd is mostly internal and it is killing me very surely i’m gonna definitely die this year at this rate
yeah my last girlboyfriend cried when I told them I kissed like 6 people at a party the first time I got drunk. (at the time, my body count was 3, including the girlboyfriend, though)
everything is so painful
No.
Ewww town bike
True.
Biggest city in my country, there's still plenty of fish
All of the 'nice bpds' actually have DPD. They are related disorders and easy to confuse.
Everyone with bpd is basically a demon. Everyone with dpd is basically just a needy puppy.
Demonic personality disorder?
Oh that made me cry. I wish a man would do this for me soon. I could go on one of my tirades and he could hold me and tell me I'm safe enough to stop.
sure, sometimes
Are you all whores too?
rare empathic man spotted
that's not a bad breakdown of what goes on mentally too
i prefer the term poly
So yes?
haha yeah
Do your partners get any kind of heads up that you're a "poly," or is that a fun little surprise?
no surprises, i'm 100% with people, i'm not gonna hurt other people telling lies when I know what type of person I am
yeah but you're probably not good enough for them because it means they have really high emotional strength and awareness
No they're all whores with extremely high standards.
every bpdemon 1000% believes this applies to them by the way, possibly only to them
you sound ignorant but I've only met one or two others that it's applied to
lol.
I need a BPD wife who's not mean or a whore and loves me.
you might be able to get that if you're not strict about either the bpd or literally any of the other criteria
But what if I ignore you and act mean and like I hate you sometimes even though I don’t?
I'll just say "ok"
I like to think that I'm nice but I still have moments where I get in my own head and am a real nuisance for those around me. Very guilty of getting really pissed at people for not reading my mind, in the sense that I know I don't want to talk about my feelings so I want them to somehow know what words to say to force it out of me.
All in all my BPDisms have seriously gone down from when I was younger. I've driven away a good few people and was just a total drain on everyone around me, but I'm at least not like that anymore even if it slips out once in a blue moon.
Do you have abusive patterns or a history of promiscuity?
No on both accounts, though I'd say a history of abuse with threats of violence and self-harm. Never been promiscuous though I'm pretty dead on that front.
Do BPDs who don't threaten to hurt themselves or others or act on both even exist? I can deal with depression and self hatred but not being threatened.
I don't do any of that stuff anymore, it's definitely something that can be improved upon. I think it's a pretty natural state for most BPDs though so unless they've worked on themselves then that's probably part of the package. I'm not a BPD expert or anything and just speaking from my own experience so I could be completely wrong.
fuck this is me
i try to work on it but there are moments where it seeps thru the cracks and it scares me
I need a girlfriend. A relatively normal one tho.
I can save you.
i’m relatively normal for someone with bpd
I let BPD people hurt me three times
What I hate the most is that they've forgotten me, they should suffer for what they did to me
Are you promiscuous?
no and i don’t self harm or get violent or anything
Wanna go out?
idk anything about you
That's good
why is that good
It's calm and mysterious
yes. i'm like this, but in my experience only men stay calm when i'm having those problems. otherwise i tend to date women with the same problems or worse, and the fights are horrible, i never feel like i'm actually listened to because she's also just having a fit
i can listen to you
maybe if you can handle me being mean and ignoring you bi weekly
are women capable of this or do i need to date men only??
I thought you weren't mean.
i just told her i'm literally scared she's going to violently hurt me and she just laughed at me
i'm not in a space to be considering dating anyone rn, i wish i wasn't so reliant on someone who seems to want to hurt me... thankfully only emotionally so far, aside a few little bruises
i never said that i said im relatively normal for having bpd
i'm not violent, but i would kick someone's ass for joking about hurting me.
Okay, I guess we can ignore each other then have makeup sex three times a month.
yeah, well, years of hrt later and i'm not strong enough to do that even if i wanted to
that's what weapons are for
im alright with that i guess
Sounds good to me. How is dating with having a problem with being mean randomly, anyways?
not great i usually try to isolate first and then if they get too pushy about it i’ll have a meltdown and get really mean in response to make them leave me alone. inevitably happens every time
Do you prefer eternal solitude?
no i want someone to read my mind and know exactly what to say to make me feel better
And in the absence of that, do you prefer solitude?
yes that’s my go to alternative
I see. How's it going so far?
boring and lonely
What compels you to be mean to your partners?
overanalyzing things they do or feeling jealous or like i’m not getting enough attention
Do you get angry when you get too much attention?
hii
depends on my mood but i do sometimes
What do you want another person for, exactly? You get upset if you receive what feels like too little attention but also too much, you're bored and lonely but get mad and make people leave. What value does another person have to you? Love? Entertainment? None of the above?
Bpd bussy is the best
people like that do exist, yeah. but it's a very fine line between actually being bpd and just being avoidant. the way we define BPD often entails a lot of volatility that leads to jumping to conclusions that arent real or are extreme versions of reality in order to 'justify' being toxic and shitty and pushing people away. because of this, I have the potential be toxic and bitter and negativistic and it often pushes people away, BUT, no therapist has ever given the suggestion that I might be BPD real consideration, even after a bunch of psych evals for personality disorders, because the reasoning I give them for why I think the way I do seems perfectly sound to them.
bottom line for me is that im extremely existential and skeptical and cynical and whatever else and so when I doompost about how my situation sucks people decide im too negative and that its bad for them to be around that, so either I have to lie and pretend things are much better for me than they are, or just not associate with anyone ever because I guess everyones optimism is fragile as fuck or im just THAT much of a downer
me!! im nice i think
Not really, no
A certain type of man like the on in picrel can click with them by fitting into their insane mold though - a pathological need for a cycle of turmoil and fixing and adoration
Is it over for bpdemons? A never ending cycle of sex, cutting and ghosting til suicide?
It's common for BPD and autism to be mixed up. As autism is seen as a more male condition, and BPD more female, girls who are actually autistic often get misdiagnosed as BPD. I dated an autistic girl once and it was grim, and autism is more tolerable for me as I have it, so I imagine dating a BPD is a nightmare.
I dated an FTM who was severely autistic AND BPD and I think it was the worst experience of my life.
FTMs are nuts.
I can't imagine how perfectly femalemaxxing it must be to have Borderline Pooner Disorder
AFaBs are just histrionic, I guess
Yeah I have 2 bpd friends who are nice. One is kinder than most people I know and actually gives a shit about me.