any of u got stories around this? why don't you want to start a family?
Cant decide, troon out or start family?
ava tyson time!
Make a family
Then, when the kid is like 2 or 3 years old, just yell at your wife, "YOU'RE GAY NOW, I'M A TRANNY!" and jump through a window and run away to get your HRT
I tried settling down with a long term gf but I never felt close to right living with her. Each night I had fantasies about being in bed with a man as a woman. I was tormented. I wanted to be a husband and father and be socialy validated as a man, or so I thought, but my body just rebelled. My body wanted to be a mother and wife and socially and sexually validated as a woman.
I decided not to subject my gf to a marriage to a false man and I came out and broke up with her. I have zero regrets, that was 8 years ago.
What happened to her after that?
i want a family so bad anon you have no fucking idea.
all the men who date trannies are sex freaks and adoption is difficult and might get made illegal, i've seriously considered marrying a cis woman despite no attraction to them sexually, just because i want kids that bad
I did this don’t recommend
and then make a redditpost about being mad ur wife filed a divorce
when i was 18 my parents were whining about never having grandkids because of my life choices but realistically i just don't think i was ever cut out to be a family man. girls never really had any romantic interest in me growing up for starters, and on the rare occasions that they did i just didn't really know what to do about it and fumbled them. i'm also just too fembrained to ever make enough money to support a wife and kids. i was always bright but the subjects i was good at were things like languages and english and history, not science or business.
i'm 28 now, have bounced around between comfy foidy office jobs, exclusively date guys and i'm happy. i think seeing as i was the eldest son i was expected to follow in my dad's footsteps, i was even named after him, but we're just different people. my dad was a 6'2 chad who played rugby and was a real lads' lad, i turned out a weak 5'8 babyfaced twink who was terrible at sports and didn't fit in socially with guys at all. you just have to go along with life's plan for you.
Do one or the other.
For the love of God don't do both.
If you're going to not be trans, make that decision and never look back. Why would you ever subject your significant other and children to your little fetish dream? That's so horribly selfish and will fuck up your children.
Either be the gooner of your dreams or become a well adjusted competent member of society and seek internal peace with yourself.
You can't have it both ways.
I have 2 kids, I am a stay at home mom, they call me mommy. I pass in 90% of interactions. It’s an ok life. I’m not attracted to women anymore though so it’s rough.
i said troon or family, im not doing both. seen enough horror stories.
how long did you date yours? im 8 years into mine? kinda cooked i know but ya thats me.
She fucked a bunch of guys trying to replace me but didnt find one she loved. She moved back to her home country. She visited me a year later and went out with me trying to see if I would change my mind but I told her I wasn't going back. She then moved back to her home country and fucked at least one other guy there.we were together about 3 years not counting the long breakup.
Eventually we got into an argument on Facebook messenger and she blocked me, possibly disgust at my newfound sexual orientation but I think the actual argument was something inane about airport security. So being blocked surprised me. I Haven't heard from her since and don't really care to.
that's really tragic. you were here true love but your needs for yourself and respective sexual orientations didn't match up
dysphoria fucks up everyone in its vicinity
story give story pls
Knock up a foid and then troon when the kids are in high school, "trans widows" need to be identified and mocked
I transitioned from 22-24 and had to move back south from nyc (this was 2012) because recession raped me. My mom was pressuring me to get kids (my whole life) and I came out to a girl as trans and she didn’t really understand what it was but liked me anyway (she was a fag hag/drag queen chaser). I was drunk all the time, she proposed to me and I said yes. She was really successful in a male career, and I kind of saw her as a guy (ftm repper? closet les?) so we had a kid and I was resigned to just repping but seeing birth happen was really psychologically damaging and cross dressing wasn’t enough anymore I told her I was gonna transition again and she said we gotta try for one more so the kid is alone so we did and got it and I transitioned. My kids have only ever known me as mom and I’m doing mommy things just like I dreamed when I first transitioned and they look like me but sometimes I wish I was free…
damn why is trooning so powerful ffs well at least you got to troon witha family. lucky.
be amerifat
what if my kid was trans
Easy, no longer want kids
Eventually we got into an argument on Facebook messenger and she blocked me, possibly disgust at my newfound sexual orientation but I think the actual argument was something inane about airport security. So being blocked surprised me. I Haven't heard from her since and don't really care to.
that sounds super sad anon. I feel bad for her.
had a few offers from guys I knew to get surrogates so they could have kids with me (ftm) tbqh genetic legacy is nice but I don't actually want to deal with children
I'd do it if I could just offer up my eggs and fuck off though
dang they want you bad lol ya part of me wants to extend the legacy but basically only so my parents will be happy :/ dont really wanna deal w kids
no I just hang around with people that have built in expectation that some level of fertility treatment is going to be used to have kids. in my experience only women have moral stigma against surrogacy so to them it's not much different than ivf.
i don't earnestly believe in genetic basis for transgenderism (any evidence that points to innate from birth transgenderism is 99% of the time just an autism thing) but when I came out my mom started screeching at me about 'how much she went through to have me' and that 'she would have fallen for it [transition] too so I have no excuse' so whenever I think about having kids that quickly shuts that thought down
Sure i got my story
be me
not you
hardcore repressor, didn't know what trans was really outside of porn
it's not strange for little boys to break down and cry when their military dad demands they get a high n tight cut instead of being allowed to grow their hair out long
it's normal for boys to occasionally want to wear mom/sisters panties, you know, just to see what it feels like
totally normal cis male behavior to fantasize about what it would be like to have a pussy
nothing strange about being embarrassed about flaunting my cock in spandex for hs sports
etc. etc.
2020 derails my life, realize life is short and that I shouldn't keep parts of me shoved into the deepest corners of my psyche anymore
start experimenting
feeling enormous pressure from parents to give them grandkids
experimentation leads to my first internal revolution, decide it's time to completely ignore what I just learned about myself and settle down instead
decide to finally get with a girl who has been desperate to get with me for years and will only do so if I promise to plan to get married and have children
agree, plan for marriage
she moves in
she proposes to me one night
I say yes
finally have access to women's clothes for the first time as an adult
...
indulge in my crossdressing, occasionally cheat on her with a guy by sucking dick (the relationship was withered by that point)
realize she's actually a horrible person who is a walking tangle of lies and manipulation
break up with her after she makes it clear she has zero interest in doing anything but staying at home and being a lazy housewife to be impregnated
slowly realize all those "normal cis male" behaviors were in fact not normal cis male behavior
get on HRT
never been happier
block ex after she does some unbelievably petty things
a year and a half later she drunkenly calls and leaves a voicemail wondering if I wanted to talk "about [her] fucked up life"
laugh and ignore her completely
i think you may be right, theres def a ton of fake trans out there rn especially with impressionable/trendy youth and autistic induvials getting hyperobsessed/confused with trans stuff. I actually just want to take HRT to see what I would look like if i was born the other gender, im just curious lol but its prob not worth all the trouble. However i dont take life too seriously. but your mom sounds like a typical boomer. many such cases.
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh troonfuel. pls stop. glad you gt out of it. ya it just feels so fucking performative. I just want to experiment and never got the chance. been too much of a pussy to hurt my gfs feelings and leave her.
Are you with a cis-woman? Shifting attraction is definitely rough. I'm happy tho that you were able to have some kids. literally my dream
I don't worry myself with fake trans since on a personal belief level I am likely closer to a tucute than this board's idea of 'trutrans'. In the same boat however that I took HRT on a whim, but it's stuck with me. My mother screeches at everything I do so perhaps I shouldn't look too far into what she said when I came out but her ideas that 'nobody actually enjoys being a woman' and other things of that sort definitely seem like she would have been a less miserable person had she just been born a generation later.
i love kids. they're fucking awesome. i've got several younger siblings and they're all so cool. i never hesitate to smile at a little kid on the street. i tutor middle and high schoolers for supplemental income and enjoy giving them advice or just being a low-stakes person for them to talk to.
issue is, if i'm to father those kids, by the time i settle down, have an income that could support a family, find a cute girl i'd be happy to raise a kid with, i will probably have lost my mind with dysphoria by then and ruined some aspect of my life by then.
right now i want to troon out, get my life together, find a girl, and maybe if reproductive tech gets good enough we can have kids. if not, we could try our hands at adoption. i think it'd be cool to have a kid that's biologically ours though.
Iwnbaw at 30 and frankly I don't think I'd want to be if given the chance.
The feelings won't go away anon, they just become more powerful and life-warping. I would tell your gf and get on HRT, and let things fall where they may. It'll be hard especially if she's a good one, but you have to be happy as yourself or every other part of your life will slowly be compromised. You might not have to leave her but it's going to be a big ask of her in that case. If you were performatively masculine as I was, she definitely won't see you as a man or respect you in general once you let her in on what you really want.
You can either wait to John 30, John 40, or John 50 if you want but it's not getting any better.
Hey same im 30. And ya iwnbaw is real. every time i look at my ribcage I just say there’s no fucking way, but I still want to do it anyways. Ive repressed since 13 and wow i just feel like such a fuckup. But i KNOW i am diagnosed ADHD and thats linked with autism and i KNOW i hyperfixate on things. The feelings hit worst when im alone with my thoughts but around friends and family theyre better but theyll still creep in sometimes like; “what if i had boobs right now? or what if i could wear a sundress right now”. I know i can keep going but its so miserable to just always have these thoughts in the back of my head john 50 is nightmare fuel but i want to believe the thoughts will dissapear if i start a family
They won't
You'll just have a family and feel them except worse
Even if you just take HRT and manmode it's better than just staying a man and letting testosterone destroy you til you die. I manmode because it's easier than trying to socially transition and then be forced to explain to every single person I meet my extremely specific ideas around gender. Personally idgaf if people see me as a man, woman, freak whatever. I just take hormones because it helps me look the way I want to look and feel the way I want to feel and there isn't a whole lot more to it than that. The reality is that most people don't find that to be a satisfying answer and will twist themselves into knots trying to understand that simple reality, defaulting to confusion at best and rejection and hostility at worst
There's plenty of women on androgens who aren't trans. They're fitness models, housewives, bodybuilders, hobbyist, professional athletes. People use cross hormones and develop androgynous bodies.
People are really fucking dumb and reactionary. They don't want to understand, they want an excuse to avoid the effort of examining their world view. They want things to fit in the simple little boxes they have in their heads that they haven't critically examined since they developed them in childhood.
I can tell you it's 100% possible to get women pregnant even after years of hrt. Happens fairly often. Life finds a way.
trooned at 16
"lol ew kids dumb"
didn't freeze sperms or random bullshit wanted hrt quick
now 24
zero regrets
realize that inability to have kids means I have 0% chance of being shackled with a child who would soak up all the money and time I use on my hobbies
tfw also aro ace
tfw 2steps closer to being truly free due to being LGBT
feels good
I'm a transbian who is attracted to cis women. I want both, and can have both.
Trooned 2 years ago. Should've frozen sperm, but whatever - I've never taken any AAs, so I'm not nearly as sterile as I could be.
Definitely need to do it soon when I'm legally allowed to...
Ive never wanted kids. Ive only ever felt pressured to because of my parents. I use to wish everyday I was sterile so it wouldnt be my fault if I couldnt have kids and I could transition without guilt. I dont want kids because I think Id be a bad parent, I dont want to raise a kid that will be suffering in a worsening world, I dont want to continue my tranny genes in case its hereditary, I dont like kids, and its also just way easier to live and save money without them.
I thought aboutnit a long time before replying to you since I can see where your head is at. The fact is breakups happen and it was a good thing for both of us because the person she thought she loved wasn't the real me. When I think back on that I am relieved every single day we broke up. It just wasn't a great relationship and to be honest I think there were a lot of signs it wasn't working that she ignored.
8 years is a pittance of time compared to the rest of our lives, don't subject her to half-ass love, and don't tie yourself down to something you're not 100% sure about.
you will never find internal peace repping