/acegen/ - garlic bread edition

Where's the asexual general?

QOTT garlic bread anyone?

why fucking garlic bread of all things?
im tired of this crap
feels like a 14 yr old trying to be edgy and randum xddd *holds up spork*

the options are

garlic bread

cake

dragons for some reason?

there's nothing for asexuals to talk about on this board I think so thats why theres never an acegen

nothing for asexuals to talk about

the dolls of /mtfg/ would beg to differ - most of that clique just talks endlessly about their lives (like cis women lol)
the general topic is largely meaningless if you can get a band of regulars to inhabit it

Is there even any asexuals on this board?

I've thought I am asexual for a very long time but now think I might just be into women and was uncomfortable with this.
There's nothing for us to talk about tho.
I'd inhabit acegen but honestly other asexuals piss me off. Maybe the ones here would be ok but I like to stick by myself.

I might just be into women and was uncomfortable with this.

why were you uncomfortable?

Iv'e been asexual for the better part of 8 years and haven't felt attracted to anyone or felt the need to do anything sexual since the last year of highschool. now for whatever reason all I can think about is this guy and it's bothering me a lot. I don't think i'm demisexual, i've had plenty of friends and didn't have any feelings for them. I also have no idea of how to approach him, or if he even likes men. It also bothers me that i might not be asexual, even though i still don't really want sex.

There's nothing for us to talk about tho

just blogpost

People have been asking me if I was gay since I was probably around 14. Beyond that, people have just been telling me I am gay, or worse, telling other people, even when I haven't 'come out'. Every few years I start feeling increasingly into women, then people start calling me a lesbian, and I repress those feelings again.
I'm not suited for relationships. I had no interest in sex, kissing, anything, for a really long time. I do not experience sexual attraction very often at all, I had once in the past decade (was drunk), but now after experience mentioned below, it's happening more.
Much like , I am really bothered that I can't stop thinking about a girl now. I don't think I'm demi, it bothers me that I might not be asexual. Granted I am only thinking about this woman because she made out with me and said it would be ok to do it again sometime, but it has been months and nothing happened. I don't know how people work and I don't know what her deal is, she also has a gf so I don't want to disrespect their relationship at all. She has invited me to a few things and says hi when she sees me but I don't really know how I'm supposed to behave around her so I just try to avoid her. She doesn't seem to want me to 'like' her, but she's the one who made our acquaintanceship something not platonic so... (I dont hold people to what they do when they're drunk but she sent flirty messages weeks after as well)
Basically I told her going into that (she really wanted to make out even after I told her I thought it was kind of gross) that I was asexual, was not going to have sex with her, and didn't want to waste her time. Unfortunately something clicked into place in my brain and when were back at her house in bed I got mad horny. This freaked me out, I did not tell her how I was feeling because I figured it was a drunken fluke. Now for 5 months I daily think about how much I regret not doing more.
I complain about it here a lot tbdesu

Is that enough of a blogpost lmao.. I wasn't done but I got distracted.
I already knew her to be someone who gets around - like of our few mutual female friends, both of them have talked to me about hooking up with her before, and I don't know most of her friends. I think that's why I was ok with it because I figured I could try making out with someone again (I had only done it once before, with a man, didn't like it) and then we would go on like nothing had happened. Didn't realize how much I would like it and how much I would want to do it again.
There's this one moment when we were making out on her couch, she kinda pulled away and looked at me all serious and said that it was really working and we needed to have a chat when we were sober. I was so confused, I remember thinking that we were just kissing and I know that's really not a lot for allos. I know she does just say whatever to make people feel good, even if it's not true. But it did feel really nice and it was getting better and better, and I have nothing to compare it to. Once sober I got worried because what if that WAS actually working and it was a fluke and I'm never going to enjoy kissing anyone again. Or what if it wasn't and we do end up doing that again and I'll want to do it more and more even tho that's not an option, I'll go crazier than I already am.
Being asexual and not really attracted to anyone prior to this, these feelings are all very confusing to me. Maybe I'm not asexual at all, maybe I never was, maybe I'm just frigid? I've started experiencing attraction since kissing her and it weirds me out, feels disrespectful to women.
I feel like if I can just get over my freakout and make out with someone else, my months long spiral and hyperfixation will go away immediately. I had a friend who wanted to, but she told people I don't know that I'm a lesbian and it made me mad.

me being a fucking weirdo about it yesterday. I hate this.

I like how creative and unhinged they can be. I also like their quantity of energy i wish i could do half of the stuff they are able to do

then i just get ditched :/

I've been told there are plenty of people just into kissing and cuddling out there. You just gotta find someone who is more similar to you.

I feel like I don't have many friends at this point. I appreciate when people are willing to hang out with me. It doesn't happen a lot anymore. I do appreciate people that don't care if we are doing something weird and silly.

try starting out small with little hobbies maybe? even if you dont get much done you get a lil done by your own hand.

Any aromantics here? I'd identify as asexual too if I didn't like porn so much. I just want to be single for my whole life.

Why rainbows of all things? Why Subarus of all things? Why Ikea shark plushies of all things?

curly fries have occurred once again

SEX!

Can you be asexual if you masturbate? Some say yes, some say no. Can you be asexual if you are not interested in being touched sexually, but don't mind in giving out oral sex and/or jerking yout lover off? I just don't like intercourse at all, giving or receiving it, and most sexual fetishes turn me off fully,

Can you be asexual if you masturbate?

lol yeah I masturbate to things that don't involve sex

I'm glad this thread is up, been thinking about being on the ace spectrum lately.

I've always identified with it in some way but had to go on a heroes journey of uncovering how weird and non-standardized other people's senses of attraction are before I could pick apart my own shit. Ultimately desire for bog standard intercourse just didn't blaze a pathway in my brain and I was left with a pool of voyeurism and physical discord between what my sense of self can make sense of and what my body is capable of. I would call myself demisexual if it didn't imply a threshold beyond which i'm 'normal' because being subject to the semi-obsessive fetish fantasizing of a touch-me-not is not the average person's idea of a full sex life. Ultimately I can agonize about my desires and how they do or dont work until the cows come home, but I have decided that I am my choices and my actions reflect someone on the ace spectrum well enough.

I taught myself to do the opposite to be sure I wouldn't get pavloved into needing to jack off while encountering things in the wild

have sex incels

erm we're volcels, technically

not if i have anything to do with it

Am I asexual if I feel sexual attraction to other people but dont want sex at all?

that's called ptsd

masturbating is very often separated from sex, its just something you're doing for some quick dopamine.

Can you be asexual if you are not interested in being touched sexually, but don't mind in giving out oral sex and/or jerking yout lover off?

Yes, ace doesn't mean fully sex repulsed and you can still want to make your partner happy even if you don't really think about it or get much from it.

I didn't even know what sexual attraction was suppose to feel like or mean until recently, and I'm still trying to wrap my head around it. It just doesn't make sense.

I feel sexual attraction

You're not ace

Good to know. Im a failed sexual haver