I recently got a job as a cashier at a supermarket and decided it would be a good idea to boymode instead of telling...

I recently got a job as a cashier at a supermarket and decided it would be a good idea to boymode instead of telling them im trans because I thought it would be awkward.

Since I am new I have someone near me making sure I am doing the job properly, I introduced myself as my deadname, didn't use my trained voice and just decided that id rather deal with some dysphoria than the awkwardness. I get to my first day and I'm being watched by a manager, and over and over I get called she, even while using my untrained voice and having my hair in a pony tail.

Being on HRT has made my mannerisms change subconciously, so I act and talk in a girly way without really realizing. It didnt help at all that the person watching me was a dude and I feel like he could totally tell what was going on as basically 90% of customers would call me she until they read my name tag, some would say that it didn't match and that I didn't look like my deadname, others would apologize.

Every time I met a new co worker it was the same thing, They meet me, they call me she, and then they read my name tag and apologize, and now I am kinda regretting not just girlmoding. Its ironic that in my attempt to avoid awkwardness by boymoding it became awkward because I guess I suck at it. I also look alot younger than I am so I got comments abt how I looked to young to work there even though im 19.

If ur wondering what I look like its like literally just the boymode character, I can post a picture of me if needed. Should I just girlmode and get it over with?

that's nice, good for you, anon :)

Girlmode it will improve your life drastically

I think I will try, thank you.

If you recently started working there its probably best to socially transition now, I would assume thered be less explaining to do if you dont wait months to do it. and since you malefail you could use the excuse of being worried about being openly trans in a workplace (would make more sense if you dont live in a libbed up area though)

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i think it wouldnt be a terrible idea, I live in a lib area and im sure most people would be accepting just I have anxiety issues that make it hard.

you set it to one view

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god i hate unsee why is it 1 view by default

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You do look very young and you already pass just girlmode it’s worth it

yeah you really look underage and cute lol
also you should fix your hair it looks very dry

huh you actually do look like picrel
Yeah you should probably consider girlmoding

you're cute! when did you start hrt?

girlmode already honestly

dummy, find a new job now

holy shit I hate you lmfao

the tragedy of a boymoder
you look like a really cute girl I wish I worked at your supermarket…I would ask you on a date

Lmao wtf.

Imagine looking like this and being confused when someone calls you 'she'

Larp
No one is retarded enough to actually think they can cut 100% girl-coded bangs and then pretend like they're not girlmoding

The hairstyle is hard commitment

to be fair i was that retarded before, i still boymoded despite it

kill yourself

i recently got some shampoo from my mom to fix that but im unsure if its really working, thank you for being kind, im unsure why I look so young but its been a consistent problem throughout my life. I just generally had a very weak puberty, I didn't even start growing body hair until like 15-16 and even then it was very minimal.
i think i will start girlmoding soon i just gotta get over my crippling anxiety lol, i have 3 anxiety disorders and its very hard to have the courage to do things for myself as I hate the feeling of being a bother.
18 years old, thank u!
its not confusion, I just have self esteem and anxiety issues. I can understand why someone would think that, I just don't leave my house often at all before I got this job and it surprised me because I am pretty disconnected with the world.

Can I hit?

kill yourself

why....

Congrats on getting the job, since you seem to pass I'd either try to just be honest and say you didn't want to out yourself as trans at first, you can say it was because of "safety concerns" tho it might not be necessary. Otherwise you could wait until you feel more comfortable in the workplace and just ask for a different nametag and to be refered to by that name, they'll probably be able to put 2 and 2 together, you don't have to state you're trans unless necessary. BTW unrelated but do you need good math skills to be a cashier? I've been meaning to apply to be one but I suck at math.

because i fucking hate you thats why

you do not need good math skills, they usually have a calculator if its needed but its mostly automated, just scan item and then let them pay, my job has a automatic change giver so i just need to give them the bills, thank you for your advice

I haven't boymoded for like 3 years now and I want to try and boymode see how good I am at it.

Any tips??

cmon relax

HOMESTUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You need dick to make you feel better puppy?

oh nice! i started at 19 but i honestly thought you started before or during puberty because you look so good, i am a bit jealous of your lucky genetics but not to the extent of hating you like some other posters here, congratulations though you pass very well

Being on HRT has made my mannerisms change subconciously, so I act and talk in a girly way without really realizing

r/mtf tier bullshit

hrt does not do this

no fuck you
nobody wants to put their dick near my brown hon body

Stop taking your anger out on some random girl that passes idiot, it's not her fault you don't pass

i dont really care

I can tell, you're incredibly malebrained

You should care about being nice

why would i give the world something im not given?

It sort of does, unless you are too autistic or have too little contact with women when you start transitioning you start picking up on cultural markers that are associated with feminity.

This might be a hot take but I also think if you are transitioning in the first place you already were more culturally associated with women/queer people than men and thus those cultural markers appear on you easily. Though I haven't met any non passing transbian irl yet so that might change my mind.

Because it's the right thing to do

no way you thought you could boymode looking like that lol...

on the bright side youre a gigapassoid...

even if it is, i dont see why im obliged to give it back to the very thing that never gave it to me in the first place. on top of that, id be berated by that girl for how i look and she can try and fake being nice all she wants, i know deep down her and everyone else hates me

i mean you could say that sure, I think you are mistaking what I mean by saying my voice has become higher pitched, which it hasnt because that is not possible and hrt doesnt do that. What I mean by mannerisms is stuff like bending over, walking, inflections on how I speak etc etc. I guess I can't really say that HRT maybe moreso the fact that I have 0 T. Similar to how some gay men are flamboyant if that makes any sense.

this is how you know you 100% pass OP, you have incels commenting here

I mean the actual thing deep down is that she's glad for our existence so she has something to look better than relative to
Regardless you're not obliged to by natural law or anything it's just your decision and I think it was always important to me to act charitably to anyone if they didn't wrong others

bad puppy

i always thought of myself as a twinkhon but i guess maybe not, thank you for being kind

it was important to me too for a while but it led to nothing and how bad people made me feel overpowered the good feeling of being unconditionally nice

OP you’re very cute and should girlmode. hrt never changed my mannerisms but it did change my opinion on other men. It helps me that I have a boyfriend at work who helps me you should try that

The point of being good isn't to get a reward
I understand what you mean though. You don't have to always be nice though you could sometimes just not say anything

The point of being good isn't to get a reward

i never did it for a reward, even if i were given a reward now i still wouldnt do it. im not going to be nice to mean people.

But OP isn't really mean. Even the most uncharitable interpretation of this entire thread is that it's a humblebrag but that's not really worthy of you telling her to kill herself

She clearly need someone to be nice about how she looks I don’t understand the hate

OP ! This is great news! You should girlmode at work instead of boymoding, especially because its causing nothing but undue issues. You made it. <3

i know she wouldnt actually commit suicide, i just say these things on the anonymous internet forum because theres no real consequences for what i say and i deeply hate myself. you and everyone else will forget about this the moment you leave this thread.

Who are you referring to
No moralfagging on this site is important to me
It doesn't get better doing this

Have sex with the supervisor who was nice to you. You owe him sex.

you care too much about the things that dont matter, thats how you get burnt out

OP

You matter

who am i?

The depressed tranner sperging out on this thread
I mean obviously I don't fucking know you but since you're a person it's important to engage with you and maybe convince you that popping off at other people is useless

thank you :) I will try my best.

i have some bad self esteem issues so yeah

I don't fucking know you

exactly, focusing on the things that dont matter. of course if you knew with absolute certainty you could convince me, i wouldnt be complaining, but you cant. you think i wouldnt want to put an end to things like social issues? i absolutely would, however thats not realistic, is it

find someone who cares about you

I'm not trying to end the phenomenon of 'people being bitter', I'm just trying to talk to you, and in any case I'm not really staking anything on this if you want me to just fuck off you can say so

im not forcing you to talk to me and im not forcing you to leave, you can do whatever you want im not bothered by any of it

lmao imagine this introduces herself as your new male co-worker just lol nice boymode

Most of us do that, nothing to worry about.
You will be better off later, I never wanted to be a bother to people about my transgender, only people who bothered me was transgender people and drug addicts losers.
I boy mode and people do the same thing.
At least you fit in the workplace as where most troons are sex workers that die before 36.

fair enough

1.) You're practically already "girlmoding"
2.) People know you're a tranny and they know the rules for tranny pronouns

How tall are you?

5'3 why

just curious.
5'3 is super smol and cute.
people probably already look at you as a girl.
is your voice girly too?

Because your post was hopefuel for me because of how late you started hrt and still passed until I remembered that I’m 6’0+. Decided to ask how tall you were to see if it was still possible for me at my height.

are you single

nopes, despite my bpd i actually have been in a relationship for almost 3 years now

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I hope you didn’t meet them on here.

yeah it's sooooooooo over

you can still pass, one of my closest trans friends is 6'1 and passes fine. theyre super cute. Height doesnt matter as much ppl make it out to be unless you are like 6'5 cuz tall women exist, i have 2 sisters that are 5'9-5'11

are they transgender as well?

despite my bpd

your voice is great, but I must leave

no its a cis male, hes like 6 ft and hes a total sweet heart, we are in a long distance for now but weve met a few times in person and it was super fun.

Hrt kinda ruined my already low attraction to women and just made me like men even more so I dont think dating a girl would really do much for me.

aw thats so cute does he know your transgender

i mean yea we've had sex before so it would be pretty hard to hide. Hes chill with it and just sees me as a girl

I have been looking for someone as OP has described for years I hope you two are happy ignore the hate on this thread

have you considered multiple partners?

i know its uncommon for t girls but i am in a monogamous relationship atm

i have bpd so being in a poly relationship would kill me