Say thank you to Donald Zarda

I agree the whole thing is getting blown out of proportion but there are some things that are much better left unsaid. let's leave sex and sexuality out of this because I think nobody can have a rational conversation about this stuff. imagine you're about to go under for surgery, and as the gas is kicking in, the doctor says "don't worry, if you go into cardiac arrest we're not going to just ice the body so we can harvest the organs because there's a shortage of kidneys these days and your profile says you're prone to heart issues"

up to that moment, you saw the dr as a professional with professional standard of ethics and such, you were not even thinking of that as a possibility but suddenly you are. can you see why the doctor should have just stfu and not said anything?

...huh? Anon, are you trying to do that trolling tactic where you pretend to stubbornly believe in something really stupid? Cause this makes no sense. If the issue here that made it 'uncomfortable' for her to the degree that him being fired or even reprimanded at all was even remotely reasonable was the act of merely acknowledging, even indirectly, that you got an instructor strapped to you when you go skydiving, then she and his former boss need to get the everliving fucking over themselves because literally nothing happened and nothing was ever gonna happen. Are we at the point where even acknowledging that women get uncomfortable with certain things and trying to make them more comfortable is misogynistic and rapey now? Lol like the fuck? This shit is dumb af.

I'll put it more bluntly:
If I walk up to a woman at my work and say "Hello, how are you?" she might say "Hello, I'm good, thanks!"
If I walk up to a woman at my work and say "Hello, don't worry I won't rape you!" she will be correctly freaked out.

thank you Donald Zarda

nta but again you're moralizing when the issue is simply about having enough social awareness. if the customer went in knowing she was getting strapped to a dude's crotch, it can be assumed she trusted his professional ethics enough that he was in it for skydiving and not copping a feel. as soon as he brings up the fact that his dick is all over her ass, regardless of intent, it's a stupid and totally inappropriate thing to say, and yes it does sound rapey because it broadcasts where his mind is, and his mind is not on the skydiving.

The most clear-cut case was Gerald Bostock, who joined a gay man's softball league and was fired shortly after, as well as the trans woman who was explicitly fired for wearing female clothing to work, I think the Zarda case is interesting since it shows how incidentally homosexuality can be brought up in various settings and people tend to over-react, tell others, and try to get them in trouble for mentioning they were gay and courts can't just ignore that without denying gays exist or saying they deserve to be second class citizens cuz they spread disease or something.

it would be fine to bring up being gay in a church

you cannot be serious

apparently a recording exists of him (zarda) getting fired:

youtu.be/APQs-0d9TkE

you are not acknowledging the specific circumstance of gayness and that people get hysterical over the mention of being gay because you aren't supposed to talk about that

man tells woman a joke

that is LITERALLY rape and he deserved to have his life ruined

Ok nah sis, you gotta be trolling. That's an overly extreme example and not at all comparable. A better example is the doctor saying "Don't worry, I have a lot of experience and know what I'm doing. I won't make any mistakes. They don't call me Steady-Hand Steve for nothing!." Both Don and the doctor indirectly acknowledged the person might have fear of something bad happening, but assured them there's nothing to worry about in a joking manner.

We as adults can't be so weak and fragile that merely indirectly referencing bad things is taboo. That's stupid as fuck. Anyone who would be offended by what he said needs to grow up and stop being so sensitive.

man does something inappropriate at job

man fired from job

It's not literal rape, but it's obvious what will happen. He can get another job.

not watching your video, just saying you keep sliding back and forth between what's moral and what's socially appropriate, yes there's some relationship between the two, no they are not the same question. morally, objectively, I can whip out my dick in church and jerk off while staring at jesus, and as long as nobody is there, and I am 100% certain nobody will ever find out, I'm morally in the clear. once I bring it up and involve other people in any way, then it's no longer so simple