Be me 24 hrt femboy 3 years on hrt (probably just trans in denial but I don't have the emotional energy for that...

he gets to fuck you because you can't afford rent or medicine without him fucking you
he is the one with power in this situation, not you
if you were a cis woman, not a single person would take his side over yours

Idk how good of a step mom I'd be, but his kids are total sweethearts from what little I've seem of them.

not the anon you replied to, but the power dynamic would be heavily in his favour if he's paying for your HRT, the house you'll be living in and general amenities.
right now, in theory, you have the freedom to find other clients, but if you accept his terms then you'd be almost 100% reliant on him.

Okay, but I hold power in the sense that I could leave at any point and just go back to sex work. And of all the clients I have, he's the one who genuinely seems concerned about my needs and sees me as more than a hole to fuck.

I mean, kinda, but I have enough saved for a few months rent I keep for emergencies, so if he turns out to be a psycho(which I doubt because he's shown no indication of that) then I could just fuck off and go back to sex work lol.

You can move up in the world from whore to sugar baby to housewife.
I can't understand how getting a single dad ISN'T like a major goal for MtFs

nah i just want to get fucked in the ass by AIDS gorillas and take poppers and kill myself at 29 lol

Do you like kids? Figure that shit out fast.

I hold power in the sense that I could leave at any point and just go back to sex work

and he would lose nothing
but if he stopped paying you and you couldn't find more work, you wouldn't be able to pay rent
see the difference?

this must be a larp it strikes all the right chords. fuck giwtwm

I do like kids. His kids are pretty cute and sweet. Two boys. Totally adorable lil guys lol. The main things I worry about are taking advantage of him, and being a bad step mom. Like, Idk my own gender how tf am I supposed to raise a good well adjusted kid? What if they think I'm trying to replace their real mom? What if they end up becoming mentally ill degenerates like me? I just don't wanna hurt anybody with my presence

girllll, you need to open your heart to love, just stay open and communicate; and when you’re in a stable position, make sure you work on yourself, therapy; all the cringe (but needed) stuff, i’m too jaded for love i need this to work out for me

Yeah I guess. It's true he holds power over me. But like, I'm a gender confused boygirlthing. Literally everybody holds power over me.

I hope it can be you some day anon! Hopefully minus the sex work lol this shit sucks hard.

it seems like you already know what you're gonna do, just remember to let him know about your concerns about feeling like you might be taking advantage of him and other things.
Seriously, stay safe. If you're gonna be with him, don't let him convince you to get rid of your bank account, try to get a more conventional part-time job and build a strong support network of good quality friends (either other lgbt ppl, lgbt activists or trustworthy cis-women) that aren't connect to him, just in case he does turn out to be a bad guy.
I honestly hope it works out for you two, but always have a plan for the worst possible outcome.
Prioritise building a strong support network pls.
T. grew up in an abusive household and had sisters and friends that were abused in their relationships

OP this is a talk you need. When it comes to important relationships in you're life, don't think about them in terms like "what does this person do FOR me." That's bad, it just makes you manipulative and makes all your relationships less meaningful. Instead think about people like "what does this person mean to me?"
A disgusting piece of shit could buy you a Ferrari but you still have to deal with a disgusting piece of shit. But if a person genuinely makes you happy and provides fulfillment then that's irreplaceable.

What if they think I'm trying to replace their real mom?

If this is something you think about then start leaning into it. This is a hard thing to do. You can't actually replace a mother but that shouldn't make them immediately hate you. I think you seem well adjusted and are at least aware of that.

But get some hobbies or talents other than sucking dick. If baking or fixing clothes or cleaning appeals to you then get busy. If you like shopping, you can shop for kids and justify it.

I do wanna be open to love. I just feel like he and his kids deserve somebody functional. Somebody better than me. I'm literally a whore off the street. How can I be a role model to his kids? :(

I'll remember to be safe!

i think a empathetic and carrying presence is most important imp

How can I be a role model to his kids?

You don't have to worry about this really since they're both boys. If you imprint on them as a good mother figure then it will affect what they expect from a good wife of their own.
Just never tell them what you did before you met whoever. Like I said, get another skill lol

This is all so complicated and nerve wracking lol. Before I was a sex worker I was in college studying for computer science. Part of me wants to accept the offer ask him to help me make it through college, that way I can pay him back for all the help. But there's another part that's like "he's offering to make you not a whore anymore why the fuck are you asking for more you selfish cunt" you know?

I try :( I just worry I'm doing the wrong thing all the time.

Oh for sure. If this actually happens then I'm taking the sex work stuff to my fucking grave ×_×

i think that’s the most normal feeling in the world, it’s about trying your best and being understanding and letting love show

Paying for college is a big financial burden.
People on here giving good advice for shitters like "be up front with your expectations and demands" but actual men are kind of deep and complicated. Like he might gladly be willing to help you out, and he might feel obliged to do that if he's taking your income away from you.
If you need to broach the topic because you know DEBT than do that.

"hey uhh if I'm romantic with you... which I want to be... how can I pay for school???!!"

You might be surprised. Just be modest in what you need and expect...

How is your school going? If you have connections, like have interned already, have letters of recommendation lined up, connections? then definitely stay in school. If you're bottom of the pack then sex work might be more fun and profitable than really low-level outsourceable programming. If you're on some scholarship thing that's another story, but you can always keep the credits for later.
Of course there's more strategies. If you don't have to work, you could pick up x/y/z internships or study harder. He might see you as a great investment if he sees the both of you working jobs.
Men are complicated, they'll think and think and hide it all.

Part of me wants to accept the offer ask him to help me make it through college, that way I can pay him back for all the help.

if you seriously intend on being with him and supporting him just as much as he's supposedly willing to support you, then the only way to figure out the answers to all these questions and concerns is to write them down and discuss them with him.
Obviously, don't just ambush him with that shit and be willing to listen and discuss whatever questions and concerns he might have as well.
If you two can't come to a healthy compromise after a few of those discussions, then it just isn't meant to be, but hopefully you two can figure it out.
Remember, real relationships are about supporting each-other. You can't support each-other if you both haven't properly discussed what you both want and need (including boundaries).

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Like my family has money (but they're all retired really so I can't just work for them, and they expect me to either study or work). So I don't have to work through school. Now that I'm more mature I understand I have a golden opportunity to do something I want to do, so I'm putting in serious effort, making a 4.0, I have a research grant actually, have a school-funded internship actually, you know the things... still undergraduate.
If you have nothing going for you other than A DEGREE then talk to the university office and see if you can take a break if you need to, to feel things out, if it won't hurt you.
Look at this! beautiful.

If you're bottom of the pack then sex work might be more fun and profitable than really low-level outsourceable programming

I'm not the anon you replied to, but I really need to address that point.
sex work isn't anywhere near as easily scalable when it comes to increasing one's income, especially in comparison to programming.
Unless OP wants to go into online stuff like OnlyFans?? But that runs the risk of becoming too popular to have a normal life.

Yeah programming can be a great job and it's also LEGAL but personally if STDs didn't exist then I would 100% prefer to suck dick/get pounded than fucking code. Also the programming market is saturated and the whole industry kind of looks like it's ready to cannibalize itself with the whole programming robot thing. Not that it will, but they're trying to.

personally if STDs didn't exist then I would 100% prefer to suck dick/get pounded than fucking code

welp, STDs do exist and knowing how to program opens more doors that just opening your mouth/legs.
having a good understanding of computer science is a lot easier to market to future employers than sex work. Even if you eventually need to switch industry, you having a concrete qualification in programming shows a willingness to learn or some other positive business bullshit characteristics.

You're absolutely right. I'm just so pessimistic about the meme degree where people pay a fuck ton of money for the opportunity to get a good job, and then everyone else had that idea, and they didn't really stand out, then you don't really get the opportunity you thought you would AND you have some retarded amount of debt. Too many people graduate to retail, but hey at least the school is making money.
Whoring isn't career that's meant to last but at least there's no real up-front investment at the door other than your dignity.

have no real advice but this sounds so precious. he sounds like a really sweet and amazing guy nona. i would set aside time to talk to him about literally everything you mentioned in this thread, all your fears, your wants, your doubts; lay it on him and listen to how he feels about everything. tell him you feel like you're taking advantage of him, of how you might not feel like you're enough for his kids, how you feel like you might just be a replacement for his wife, where you might want to take your future, etc etc etc. if you really like him, like LOVE him, you need to be able to bear it all to him and try to understand each other before making any commitments. let him sit on everything and let him talk and then come to a decision later, but it is so so important to communicate everything you're feeling about the situation and learn how he feels as well. imagine how happy you would be with him if everything worked out....

please don't be a larp please let one of us make it please find your happiness nona..... rooting for you so hard <3

kind of unrelated but i don't know how people end up getting into sex work despite previously having been in something normal like college. it's not something i would actually do, but i think about it sometimes because of how much i hate my current wagie job i had to get after the software industry imploded

hey, did you know that there's this company called "data annotation" and they're looking for coders to give feedback on the output from their AI/machine learning stuff?
it's probably shit, but it can't be worse than wagie work.