I've convinced myself that I'm maybe trans because it gives me an excuse for being a 30 year old total virgin...

I've convinced myself that I'm maybe trans because it gives me an excuse for being a 30 year old total virgin, extremely lazy failure in life.

In reality I just have an AGP fetish though, and I don't want to be a women outside of sexual situations.

I told my therapist about my trans fetish thoughts and he took them seriously but it's all for the purpose of coping and distracting him and myself so I don't have to get out and get a job and work.

Does anyone else feel this way, that it's all just a big cope for being a failure?

I've convinced myself that I'm maybe trans because it gives me an excuse for being a 30 year old total virgin, extremely lazy failure in life.

This is so unbelievably common.

Why would the fact that you're a failure mean you can't transition. If you want to take HRT and know the risks and effects, go for it. How you express gender just up to you.

People like this are scum, I hate porn brained freaks like this

Because it's not actual gender dysphoria, so it's not the real me and I don't actually want to be a woman irl outside of sexual fantasy. HRT and the effects look fun but only as a fetish thing, and I'm too old to look good

I don’t understand AGPs who only want to be a woman during sex/for sexual reasons.
Like…wtf is wrong about being a woman?

This is why hormones should be available over the counter.
You probably just have low testosterone.
Looking out and seeing lazy aimless people with poor executive function, one must wonder how common low hormone levels are.

It's just never appealed to me that much. I've never crossdressed or anything, I just want to be fucked in a vagina.

I've had my T checked before and it's in normal levels. But yes that describes me

I just want to be fucked in a vagina.

why?

Feels more right sexually, I hate the idea of anal and I want be submissive. I sometimes get "horny" as if I had one

cuz of porn anon is a fucking loser

Is it an aversion to anal?
what if you looked the same as you do but had a vagina? Would that do it for you?

That would kind of suck because I want to be an attractive woman if I'm going to be a woman. I'd try harder to be more attractive.

You aren’t a woman tho and you wouldn’t be a woman you would just be a submissive male with a vagina. (Not saying this in a transphobic way just explaining the scenario)

why do men get fucking weird as fuck at 30+

I'd want to be attractive as a female if I had a vagina, basically. I'd want to be "normal" but hot

idk, midlife crisis?

you wouldn't try, be honest with yourself. Get off the internet and get a job

but you wouldn’t want to be a normal/hot woman in your daily life?

probably not, but it's a hot fantasy. I kind of just want a total reset on life.

I don't think I really care that much, no. Maybe it would be better idk but I've never had any strong attraction to the idea or feminine things

I kind of just want a total reset on life.

So get off your fat ass and do it. You don't have to be the failure your parents think of you as.

i thought midlife was supposed to be like 40
humans really planning on noping out at 60 now huh

If I transed out I'd still be the same failure though

I plan on having a heart attack young, yes. I expect it

You could just try hard and not be a failure

This is me except I'm pretty sure I want to be an HRT femboy due to my fear of aging and wanting to be in my early 20s and not grow up forever.
It's insulting to women because I'm infantilizing womanhood

But you can't be lazy to transition. How else are you going to afford hormones and stuff?

Why would the fact that you're a failure mean you can't transition.

Transitioning is hard and someone who got to 30 having done nothing is too low functioning or too afraid to transition. I've been wanting to do it for years and I keep fucking it up every time
I'm a fucking 30 year old man living with his parents who takes estrogen on and off. I'm pathetic

Like…wtf is wrong about being a woman?

Periods, being weaker, dangerous men...

why do men get fucking weird as fuck at 30+

Quarter life crisis and low functioning men break down after they realize they wasted their life
Speaking for myself

My parents don't think I'm a failure. They think I'm a successful man with a degree and a good job who lives with them but makes a lot of money and isn't currently crying in his room tempted to drown out the pain with alcohol

So you're objectively not a failure but you think you are?

Was gonna make a thread like this myself, I've bought diy hrt online and the needles off Amazon. Early 20s, been thinking about it for a few years and was kinda convinced by a friend to pull the trigger and get some. Truth is I'm just a porn addicted looser since middle school with depression, I don't have any intentions of becoming a girl or anything it's all just a fetish for some ugly half breed. I have no aspirations for the future and I'm not smart or strong so even manual labor is too much. I do have a shitty job but that's about it, hopefully I overdose and get brain blood clots or get into a car crash where I'm the only one who dies

Periods, being weaker, dangerous men...

I guess, but it’s not like being a man comes with no downsides either

I have tried on and off and I will start trying again soon. I had a job even but lost it right away. I also have a degree but can't find a job where I can use it.

I want to be an HRT femboy due to my fear of aging

I feel this, this is a big part of it. Fear of aging once you hit our age gets intense

objectively not a failure

If you only look at my work history sure. But I'm still a 30 year old man without a car, living off his parents, and experimenting with hormones.
I'm crying on my floor right now because I can't be a 24 year old female womanchild, it's pathetic.

You have a lot more hope going for you at least

Women seem to have a lot more gender specific problems in day to day life than men

Fear of aging once you hit our age gets intense

And it's like you don't feel like you're allowed to feel this way anymore, because it's creepy and gross for old men to have emotions like this

Sometimes I fear I might be coping like you anon but other times I think I have genuine dysphoria. I'm used to going through life not doing anything but existing and being mildly melancholic at all times, I'm not sure what I really want. Though I do wish that more people in my life were accepting, then maybe I could just try hrt and see once and for all if it's what I really need

I got you two confused, my apologies

Just gotta play the cards you're dealt. Look for a good therapist to help you work through your issues but you can still turn the ship around.

I wanted to live as a girl. It was an AGP fetish thing but I wanted to dress as a girl and be accepted for it. I had to repress it away my whole adolescence. About age 11 to 22. I will never get over that.

Women seem to have a lot more gender specific problems in day to day life than men

Idk I’d rather deal with that than be a man or deal with their problems…even the perks of being a man are unappealing to me

I think there are some people who feel like they might be trans but the bigger issue is that they feel like their body as it is is impossible for anyone to desire.

It's absolutely a form of dysmorphia, to hate your body and think it prevents you from having the kind of interactions you want, living the life you want, etc. But it's not necessarily gender dysmorphia.

I think if you aren't sure if your trans or not, you should try eating better and exercising. You will see changes in your body, and as such your opinion about your body will change. And if they relieve your dysphoria that's a lot easier and less risky than transitioning.

And if your dysphoria doesn't get better, then you know you gotta be the girl. And you'll be starting from a better point too so either way you're winning.

Though I do wish that more people in my life were accepting,

Don't we all?

Look for a good therapist to help you work through your issues but you can still turn the ship around.

At this rate can I even tell a therapist I'm dysphoric and transition anymore?

Being a woman probably sucks in a lot of ways and my reasons for wanting to be one are pretty dumb

This hits me (OP) really hard actually. I have felt that way for the most part. Always wrong, even well before trans thoughts.

I will try this road again I think

Fair enough, it’s just hard for me to wrap my head around the idea of someone wanting to be a woman in one situation but not another

I do wish that more people in my life were accepting

then maybe I could just try hrt

Bitch you just sound trans, move out of whatever hick town (I'm assuming) your in and just try some hrt

There's a lot of situations I wouldn't want to be a woman in. But overall if I could be a woman I would.

yes, but i was going to kill myself otherwise so why not just troon out
inb4 "death would be more dignified"

move out of whatever hick town

Nta but I don't think the country as a whole is accepting anymore