straight tranny
have had hemmorohoids for like 2 years so I can't bottom
doctors do basically nothing
surgery is hit or miss with decent risks of incontinence and also expensive
so I should just kill myself at this point right? I have essentially no value to anyone and am a downgrade compared to any woman cis or trans
look! the tranny thinks that all that matters in life is sex!
No if it were up to me sex wouldn't exist, but all that actually matters to me is having a man who loves me and won't leave me that I can make happy and I can't guarantee that when I'm worse off than any other woman.
I think you should top guys I've been watching trans women do it on bluesky and they seem okay with it
I don't really like topping sorry, id rather just be alone forever if that's my only option.
Okay just saying you could mentally get there if you want to. It's neural darwinism the mind selects the personality you need to survive.
Anyway, I guess you could just use your mouth. And tell him you don't like butt stuff. Maybe eventually get the OP a huge pussy (no shallow stuff). It's expensive but probably best you can do. A lot of guys need love so will be into the vagina thing too.
how bad are your roids, are they like minor or are they huge and gross and external and stuff. mine only show up immediately after sex but they dont pop out or anything and i'm like the only one who notices. anyways if u find a fix lmk ..
limitation is the mother of creativity
find weird creative alternatives to being penetrated. have fun with it
what if you rubbed girldicks instead?
Gonna copy-paste the last post I made here about healing the 'hoids. It's 4 months later, and all of the techniques from it still apply and are still holding up strong for me.
OP, I had the same problem and I was able to fix mine via extremely autistic attention to detail. Here's exactly what you need to do:
obtain a squat stool for your toilet (name brand: "squatty potty") -- american toilets have the seat positioned too high and cause hemorrhoids directly because they make you sit at the wrong angle when straining to clear your bowels
get a bidet, or at least use wet wipes; dry paper irritates the skin and doesn't even clean well
get a donut cushion and put it on your desk chair (if you're on this board then I know you sit at your desk for most of your day)
walk at least 2 miles per day (there are phone apps that can track this); hemorrhoids are caused by insufficient circulation, and the best way to improve circulation in your legs is by walking more
apply zinc oxide cream to your hole a few times per day (relieves irritation if you have sensitive skin, which reduces the amount of blood lingering in the butthole's capillaries)
ass is literally broken
still refuses to top
yeah you should kys you bitch
I’m on the same boat OP
I have an anal fissure that can medically be classified as chronic. Everytime I’m stressed out that fucker starts bleeding and puts me out of comission for a month or two.
My shitty, underpaid job as software dev can no longer support my cushy lifestyle so I’m complimenting it with sex work. They’ve just thrown a PIP at me this week and when working at my night job, while rubbing some lube I notice good ol’ Sally is on the rag again.
I feel like I can’t depend on anything and I’m not fit for even the most basic shit in the world.
cant just stop eating garbage
cant just stop being fat
cant just start walking daily
cant just lower blood pressure
so I should just kill myself at this point right?
Please do, you fucking giant retard lmao
Its more than just me not wanting to, I can stomach doing things I don't like it it's for someone I love, but I don't think I could really respect my bf/husband after if he wants me to fuck him in the ass. Just the way it is unfortunately I know it's harsh but it's just my automatic response just like if a guy was into cucking.
And yeah I can and do use my mouth but I know that isn't really enough. Its just delaying the inevitable until I get replaced by some cis whore or prettier younger tranny
Don't like women
Kill yourself faggot
I'm not fat and I don't eat garbage or have high blood pressure. slit your wrists
Not being able to have anal doesnt mean there's no options, you can still sattisfy your husband with a good oral, with your hands and even with your thighs. Its not the end of the world except for pornbrained individuals around this place.
Cuddling, kissing, spooning and being lovey dovey rules
They're not huge but they are external. I've tried a few prescriptions that don't really help so I surgery might be the only option idk
I'm not very creative but I can try
Thank u
Before this I had a fissure for like 2 years it was awful and it eventually went away just to leave me with hems instead.
same but for like more than 2 years atp
never went to the doctor or anything so idk im probably fucked
im a virgin, probably always will be now
people are so ready to call you a degenerate who should hang or some fatass or whatever because they cant fathom a tranny could ever have a non self inflicted medical condition
I can yeah. I try my best with my boyfriend and I'd do basically anything he wanted just to please him, but it just is so painful and makes me burn with jealousy knowing a cis woman with no caveats, or even a normal tranny could do that and more. I'm not stupid I know he must wish he had someone other than me. It makes me feel inferior and disgusting and I'm becoming such a bitter hateful person, like as if being a tranny wasn't enough to contend with my jealousy, I can't even be good at that.
What exactly has your bf said btw?
For me I either got tore a fissure from doing squats or from just constipation from fasting too much, like I was literally underweight when my fissures were at their peak lol, these people are delusional. I went for a colonoscopy and was told i have a contorted colon which makes me more constipated which if it didn't cause my fissures/hemorrhoids it makes them a lot harder to heal and manage. Doctors like don't do anything I've been to GI specialists multiple times, they just prescribe some cream that does nothing and tell you to eat more fiber (I eat plenty of fiber and it actually makes it worse, I have to avoid eating a lot of things high in fiber because of it).
Nothing, he's been super understanding. I just know this isn't what he signed up for. The fact he's dating me at all as a trans woman is already like some kind of fluke. He's too nice to say anything.
Maybe he loves you enough that he's doing all he can to make you happy. Have you seen perhaps what others have said above about hemorrhoids ?
I just can't buy that deep down. I feel unlovable enough were this not an issue. Only anal is already a big concession. Maybe he does just love me and I hope he does, but I'm an aging twinkhon who can't take dick at best I feel like eventually he'll come to his senses.
maybe ill go and try their jew cream or something but ive had these for like ages so i doubt itll magic it all away
i also eat plenty of fiber, used to walk/run a lot and still had them obviously
i dont think doctors even know how to treat them they just assume youre a faggot and tell you to stop having faggot sex
I think they are just hard to treat because with hems and fissures everytime you shit you basically re-damage the tissue. But also not eating doesn't work because you need an active digestive system to avoid constipation. But from my experience they could definitely take treating it a little more seriously. I think everyone has minor issues like this that go away but once they stay more than like a month or two it's a whole different thing.
Hopefully its just shitty doctors and that one of them can find something that works for your life and your wellbeing sis
yah if i was a doctor id look into giving the patient like diarreha or something to damage it less
well hopefully they dont give me the option of never having sex vs shitting in a bag (never having sex)
CUM AND PEEE
so I should just kill myself at this point right?
Yes
Wait till your bottom surgery? Sex isn't everything for guys, your bf can probably wait tho
Hey anon, I also have hemmorohoids, so I'm willing to give some advice.
Do you have internal or external?
DICK IN BOOTY
just use your front hole instead
All of this: In addition to dramatically increase the amount of fiber in your diet, even if that means taking bran supplements or that orange mix grandma's put in water to "stay regular". Possibly consider becoming a full-time vegetarian: it'll have the added benefit of increasing the health and quality of your skin and hair.
If this is truly something that's just going to keep happening then you're right to want to avoid surgery - you're just going to end up with a mangled asshole as they carve or cauterize more of your anus to fix them. You'll have to make lifestyle changes to get the results you want.
sex isn't everything for guys
lol
external
I've been fulltime vegetarian for over a decade, and the problem is more fiber(bulk) makes shitting way more painful and reaggrevates them more.
I've tried fiber supplements (pills and powder), and just eating more fiber normally and it legitimately makes it harder to heal. As a vegetarian most of the foods I rely on are high in fiber so but because of this I feel like I need to avoid things like bran and greens. Low fiber doesn't work either. I don't drink, I don't eat lots of processed foods. It's so frustrating to deal with this.
lol
I am saying this as a man
have you ever taken steroidal suppositories? be careful, they will leak. that said, they help the problem.
have you considered dialing back the lifestyle a bit?
Can't you just get really good at sucking dick? I can only speak for myself but I would be fine with just oral.
External
Okay so my type is internal, but my dad had external, so i do know some treatments.
Take stool softeners. Like, no joke, no frills, no nothing, take stool softeners, holy god they help.
Also, seriously consider buying a donut pillow/cushion to sit on. Its embarassing, yes, but it really does help.
Thirdly, consider buying an enema bulb and keeping a food journal and bowel movement journal. Yes its gross and embarassing, but you want to learn what foods and changes help and hinder.
You got this anon!
when you get fissures from squats
you sound dedicated.
contorted colon
you know, there is a procedure they do on dogs and horses when this happens...
plz look into steroid suppositories. they are far more effective than the creams. be careful, they leak.