I'm not a passoid, and I'm not trying to justify myself, what I said was shitty.
She's more trans than me for actually transitioning rather than just being a perma boymoder.
But I think if I was more dysphoric I would realised sooner, and that's somewhat interesting convo I guess, the whole point of the thread is that mb she was right and more dysphoria can be a blessing in cases where it means you recognise it earlier.
Are high dysphorics actually the lucky ones?
i can easily imagine someone transitioning very early despite having little dysphoria, as long as they were in a sufficiently supportive environment and exposed to the existence of trans stuff in a positive light. late transitioning is a symptom of repressing dysphoria. it's only if you've not had to repress it that more dysphoria leads to earlier transition.
i had dysphoria as a teen, but i couldn't properly identify it. if i had more dysphoria than i did i feel like i'd just feel more formless depression and probably would have just ended up going through with one of my suicide attempts, not transitioning. just like if i was more attracted to men, i would not have known i was gay earlier, i only would have known that i was more strange and broken and unlike the way i was supposed to be.
could also be like me and be 26 year old who started at 21/22 but was highly dysphoric since early middle school (i fucking hate myself for figuring out how to buy drugs + fake ids with BTC in 2012 but not estradiol from alldaychemist / inhouse).
This
Except for the beard and 6 ft thing, that's grim. Sorry for you.
22 and no body hair is crazy, you sure she doesn't have kleinfelter syndrome or some shit?
Nah. Luckpassing is more dangerous than being clocky, like tenfold.
I already had face hair and body hair at 14 y.o. ... (I started the transition at 15)
yeah i'm gonna be real I'm like a giga luckshit also in a t4t relationship. my gf is also a passoid but she needs makeup to pass. She continuously tells me how lucky I am to be able to pass without makeup when she can't. Is it annoying she uses me to compare herself to? yes. My response to her is always STILL "babe I think you're super beautiful no matter if you have makeup on or not" and kiss her. literally all you had to do was say something remotely sweet or supportive to her or even just go "yeah sorry you have to go through that" like a normal person would do. she was expressing her dysphoria to you, granted in an unhealthy way, and you instead decided to diminish her struggles and basically imply she's not as trans as you, whether that was your goal or not it would have come off that way. You're a really really shit girlfriend, and if you were very uncomfortable with her comparing yourself to you you could've just gone "I really don't feel comfortable with you comparing yourself to me like that, I'm sorry you have different struggles to me but Id appreciate if you did in a healthier way that doesn't also make me feel bad"
NTA but I'm western euro and I had a neckbeard at 13. Looked like shit.
idk if it's really that innocent of a remark for someone to make it sound like you suffer less and how lucky you are that you have it so much easier. it's a backhanded jealous remark imo