i dont have anything against guys my age on principle, if i had ever met one that wasnt an asshole i would be open to dating them. it seems like maybe you found one that wasnt an asshole while i couldnt. i hope you two can find happiness together :)
Why do people have such a problem with age gaps in relationships? guys my age are annoying and gross...
but they do anon. i have been told to my fucking face by someone i thought was my friend that i was being groomed for someone i chose to pursue romantically. i have gotten weird looks and made fun of in person more times than i can count. people seem to care quite a bit.
you're at a transitional age where you have the formal autonomy of a full adult, but you're still somewhat subject to the social rules that apply to minors, context makes a big difference
for example, if you're in college and living independently, it's going to be seen as less sketchy than if you're living under the same roof as your parents. if you've never been out on your own, and your age starts with "1", and some guy with a house and car and a career is going after you, that's pretty weird. but if you're on campus and you met a grad student or something, it's unusual but most likely socially acceptable though it may trigger strong emotions like from your friend or the person who was sperging out at me earlier
zoomers care
it's debatable if their opinions mean anything though
I'm a hypocrite because I feel like a nonce if someone even a year younger likes me but only like guys at least 2 years older than me. 30+ is getting into weirdland for me but it depends on your vulnerability and the dynamic
i rent a condo with a roommate, i have a job and i go to college. strictly speaking i actually earn more money than he does right now (not for much longer though he just got a new position with a hefty raise). i can understand if i was a bummer NEET with no prospects in life going after a sugar daddy but that is really really not the case.
Preach sister
I'm 45, my gf is 24, we've been dating for 4 years and it's incredibly healthy and loving and supportive. We are an incredible match
dating mechanic that's been true for all of human history
CHECK OUT THIS CRAZY NEW THING GEN Z IS DOING!!
I legitimately dont know why or how this became such a big deal for zoomers and even some millennials I met
Is it kind of weird for a capable experienced adult to date a fresh adult whos sheltered? Yes it can be and it can be abusive but like they are fucking adults and they can make their own decisions.
If a young person is dating someone much older the most I would do is preach caution. Please be able to take care of yourself and draw an income if things fall through or get bad. Understand if you are relying on them financially you are setting yourself up for vulnerability later on
The worst part about this is that this kind of attitude makes young adults dating older more isolated, like OP describes losing friends over this. More isolated = more open to abuse. Absolutely crazy backwards morality
t. 32 and dating someone whos 36
I legitimately dont know why or how this became such a big deal for zoomers and even some millennials I met
zoomers are massive puritans