they can be weird and mean to me because “we’re both girls"
that's annoying. i don't talk to a lot of other trans women because of that weird over familiarity. there's a lot of weirdo trans ppl, but there are also some cool ones.
I’m a really feminist girl...
finally someone reasonable lol, i’m trying not to over generalize. But yeh every trans person i’ve met has seemed to just be rly touchy and not care about my own personally boundaries and feelings. I get it, if your used to being bullied then you meet someone’s who’s overly nice, i get feeling like you can get comfortable. But girl, get your sweaty hands off my shoulder, i have the decency to not be mean to other people so you should have the decency to keep your hands and thoughts to yourself
I’m like this too and desu having trans friends is actually what made me transphobic at first, since they didn’t go along with anything I had previously believed about trans people. The people I knew who transitioned didn’t have much “reason” to do it, it’s not like they were way more femme/masc than others for their entire life, it just seemed like one day they decided it would be fun to change their name and pronouns and have everybody go along with it — And this event was generally not occurring at the peak of their good and sensical decision making. At the end of the day I think part of it is that I’m insecure and hate being the center of attention, so I actively avoid it at all costs, but people who transition are consciously walking into an extremely negative spotlight, and I just can’t comprehend that action or how it could ever possibly be worth it. It’s made worse if you’re a feminist type because you’re probably already disillusioned with womanhood and want the experience to be different so it’s even harder to imagine a good reason why someone would want to become a woman. What I’ve come to terms with is that there isn’t any one overarching philosophy of gender that’s ever going to explain the “why” of transition to me, it’s probably something I’m never going to get like believing in god, but I can still respect it and understand how it holds value to people.
i think those people might just be assholes outside of being trans, i'm ftm but back prior to coming out i'd try to fit into female friend groups and due to being a massive autist i'd get shit like this where they'd claim to be joking and it just being girl banter but through the power of an autism diagnosis and therapy i figured out they were just bullies. i'd imagine if there are cis people who hide themselves just being bulliese behind it being girl banter so they can get away with it then there are probably trans people who are also just bullies trying to hide from being called out as a bully by calling their behaviors banter
yeah same, the 2 trans people i know are both white and financially well off, and pretend to have autism. And online it seems to be the same thing almost every time
a few 6’2 men with full beards stampeding
Those aren't women, if they were trans women they would try to pass
wearing trans pins
wearing lipstick
sometimes have long dyed hair
You know what maybe your right chief
if it helps you understand at all some trans people tried to hide being trans from others and themselves by trying overly hard to fit into their expected gender roles, or some trans people will start realizing something feels wrong with their gender and think they just need to be more typically feminine/masculine to fix how they feel. i'm ftm but when i first started feeling gender dysphoria i didn't know being trans was a thing and i fogured i just wasn't girling hard enough so i tried to be more typically fem (didn't work obviously lol). there are also just gender nonconforming trans people (transfem tomboys, transmasc femboys) just as there are gender nonconforming cis people
there is a MASSIVE crossover between being trans and autistic, to the point where if i remember correctly there are actually more autistic trans people than non autistic trans people
So, feminism is just for your own select club of heteronormative white women, and you only enlist minorities to serve your own ends, not theirs.